Dr. James Dobson at Family Talk

I heard Dr. James Dobson on the radio the other day, and he mentioned that many people have difficulty finding him these days. Actually, it comes from the confusion that results from the fact that he is no longer with Focus on the Family.

Dr. Dobson has helped many people through the years, and one of his books is mentioned on this website. Focus on the Family has provided wonderful resources over the years. Family Talk is the name of the new radio program where Dr. Dobson is now located. It continues to provide help for families in the same way that Dr. Dobson has done through previous years.

So, now there are two ministries that provide great help for families. The focus of this post, however, is to alert people to the fact that they are not finding Dr. Dobson by going to the Focus on the Family website or by listening to radio programs by that name.

If you want to connect with Dr. Dobson, make sure you connect with Family Talk.

Actually, I think they have already taken steps to correct this. If you want to find a website for Family Talk, you will actually find it under Dr. Dobson’s name at http://www.drjamesdobson.org/.

Anyway, if you want to find Dr. James Dobson’s present ministry, make sure you are finding Family Talk

Advice On Unrequited Love – Stop Shooting Yourself Down

Want Advice On Unrequited Love? – Then Stop

Shooting

Yourself Down!

If someone doesn’t love you back, you have two options: One is to win back his or her love. The other is to accept what you don’t seem to be able to change. If you are married, and the situation does not involve infidelity, abuse or abandonement, the first option is what you will major on.

Of course, if the situation does involve infidelity, abuse or abandonment, then you may have an option (though not required) to split up on a more or less permanent basis.

I’m not really sure that there is anything worse than loving someone who does not love you. It can be torture to have such strong emotions and not have them returned. No one can make it all go away, but there here is a little advice on unrequited love that may make things a little easier.

It may sound like a cliche, but it is true: It’s not you it’s your spouse.  The fact of the matter is that many people end a relationship too quickly and than later regret it. The person who left you may very well one day realize that that was the biggest mistake of his or her life. You might very well be the one that got away, and people in situations just like yours  may always regret it.

Don’t assume that your partner left because he or she didn’t love you, it could have been that he or she didn’t realize he (she) loved you or even that your spouse was afraid of the love he or she felt for you.

I know this does little to ease your hurt but at least your pride can be a little less injured with this knowledge.

Sometimes it is just not the right time. Sometimes you meet someone, and one or the other of you is on the rebound or just not looking for love. Neither of you may realize it right away and when one of you does figure it out and leave it can leave the other person feeling blindsided.

Sometimes we sabotage ourselves. We ignore obvious signs that the other person just isn’t that into us. We pretend they are interested when we know in our heart that they are not. Make sure you are completely honest with yourself about the situation which is good  advice on unrequited love.

You also need to make sure that you are not sabotaging your relationships in other ways. Many people who don’t feel good about themselves have a hard time believing that they are worthy of love. If they feel that way, they often push love away without even realizing it. Make sure that is not what you are doing.

Try to honestly figure out what it is that you are doing that is causing you to love the wrong people or to push love away when you have it.  You may be surprised to find that love really is within your grasp you just have to learn to let it happen in it’s own time and not try to force it.

If any one of these scenarios is the reason they left you it is possible that someday the two of you will come back together. But, do not wait for that day to come. Instead live your life and trust that if it was meant to be, it will be. That is the single hardest thing to do, but it is good advice.

This advice on unrequited love may help you sort things out and find the solution to your relationship issues. It is not always easy to face up to your flaws and make changes, but it can be done. Don’t give up, realize that you are someone who is worthy of love and

10 Ways To Get Your Ex Boyfriend (or Husband) Back And Keep Him

Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back

This Works for Getting Your Husband Back Too!

This title may seem a little strange for a website that is primarily about marriage; however, sometimes married couples get estranged from each other for a period of time.

So, when that happens, it is important that they get their relationships restored. Many of the principles for doing that are the same for former spouses or for former boyfriends or girlfriends.

If you are hurting because you want to get your boyfriend back, there is help out there to find 10 ways to get you ex boyfriend back and keep him. These same principles work for getting your ex husband back too.

1. Apologize

If your relationship ended because of some stupid misunderstanding there is a chance he still has feelings for you. If one or both of you needs to apologize then all you have to do to get the ball rolling is to be the bigger person and make that first apology.

2. Utilize Available Technology

Another way to get him back is to use the technology we have available to us today. If you do not feel like calling him or are too embarrassed, then email or text him. Set up a place to meet and have lunch or coffee and just talk. Do not start by getting all into what went wrong within your relationship, just talk and keep things friendly.

3. Improve Yourself

Number three on the list of 10 ways to get your ex boyfriend (or ex husband) back and keep him is to try to improve yourself in some way. Once he sees that you have made the changes that need to be made then you may inspire him to do the same and he may even ask for tips on how you are making the changes you are making. If he does ask, then you will have more things to talk about, and maybe can find new similar interests, too.

4. Figure Out What Went Wrong

When wanting to get back with an ex, it can be very helpful to consider what went wrong and who messed up. No, this isn’t about laying blame just for the sake of laying blame, it’s about finding the solutions to the problems that led to the break up of your relationship.

5. Get Good Information to Help You Further

Once you have done that, the rest can fall into place pretty easily. Those of you who are married and looking to improve your marriage, consider six amazing keys to marital bliss as presented in The LOVING Way to a Successful Marriage. If you are not married, but are hopeful that the one you reconcile with will be your future mate, these keys can help you too.

6. Work on Joint Projects

No matter who was at fault, more than likely you both made some mistakes and can benefit from making some changes. This is the best way to start. It can allow you to not ony get back with your ex, but you will both have a much better chance of making things work if you do reconcile.

7. Spend Time Doing Things You Like to Do

It’s also important for you to spend time doing the things you like to do.

8. Each of You Spend Time with People You Enjoy

Spend time with the people you enjoy spending time with. All of this wll allow you some breathing room and time to deal with your own issues.  It will also make the time seem to go a little faster while you are making changes.

9. Talk to Each Other

Once you’ve worked things out you should talk to your ex. There are a lot of ways you can do that and here are the top 10:
email
text
instant message
phone call
mutual friends
letter
ad in the paper
twitter
facebook
and last but never least, the ever popular, skywriting.

It doesn’t matter what method you use, if you follow these 9 ways to get your ex boyfriend back and keep him and do everything you can do to ensure your relationship will be strong this time around, he will most likely be happy to get back together with you.

Here is one more thing you will want to do:

10. Keep Tweaking the Good Things in Your Relationship

People who have relationships that “sparke” always look for good ideas. Those come from resources that talk about successful relationships and marriages, from resources that talk about restoring relationships, and from resources that talk about building each other up.

When it comes to betting back with your ex, I don’t really know if you will get all the information you need to help you on this website, although there is a lot of help here, but I might be able to introduce you to a friend who will be able to help you.

For more ideas of how to get back with your spouse,

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Get Your Marriage Back – 7 Temendously Simple Steps for Getting Started

“Get your marriage back?” Does that seem to be easier said than done? Of course it does, and this is especially true if your husband or wife has just left you. 

You may have come here after reading an article on using articles.com or after reading that article as it has been reprinted, with permission, at other sites.

Get Back Together

Get Back Together and Things Will Be Great!

Here is an expanded version of that article with helpful links to similar resources on this topic.  While you are here, look at other helpful articles (blog posts), resources, and webpages that can help you attack problems in your marriage.  Reading about these things can also help you prevent problems before they come up

Get your marriage back, starting today. is that really possible? It is. Here’s how to get started restoring your marriage in 7 easy steps.

Before we get started, though, let’s talk some about experience.  Some say that experience is the best teacher.  It certainly is an effective teacher, but it can be a very painful teacher too.  You can learn from your own experience, and that will help you in the future; however, how much better it would be to learn from other people’s experiences.  Then you would gain some valuable information without having to go through your own pain.
 
I have learned from my own experience.  I have also learned much valuable information from reading about the experiences of others.  I have been able to help others by passing along what I have read or heard.  Some of my best help has come about by introducing people who are going through a certain problem to others who have gone through a similar problem and have come out successful on the other side.
 
My desire in helping others is to give them content that is based on good research, based on my own personal experiences, based on the experiences of others, and is based on timeless truths
 
What are some great steps for getting your marriage back?  Here are some of them.
 
Step 1. Be strong and refrain from acting like you are falling apart.
 
You see, when your partner finally summons up the courage to leave you, he or she gets a newfound sense of power.  If you act like you will just fall apart if your spouse does not come back to you, you will just fuel that feeling of power.  So, though you may be dying inside, don’t act like you will fall apart unless your estranged spouse comes back to you
 
Step 2. Give your spouse some space and time to think.
 
Even though your mate feels empowered by leaving you, you have to understand that he or she is not thinking clearly too.  He or she probably really does need some time to think because in that thinking time, your partner will have a chance to realize some mistakes he or she has made. Also, it will take some time for him or her to realize some of the negative consequences of this action.
 
 
Here is the secret to avoiding an argument.  It is one that you will especially need to use during this time.  It is not necessarily one you will use forever, but it will serve you well as you are trying to get your spouse back.
That simple secret is to agree with your spouse.  You should actually consider what he or she has to say, and when he or she is right, certainly agree with him or her.
 
What if it cannot be proven that he or she is right?  Consider this.  When you deal with matters of opinion that cannot be proved one way or the other, you will do well to agree with your mate’s opinion (even though your opinion might be different).
 
What about when your former lover is “just plain wrong”?  Then, do your best to just “hold your tongue.”
How can an argument get started if you agree?
 
After using this technique temporarily, you will find ways that you can disagree agreeably in the future, but you probably will want to continue on with this technique when you deal with many future occasions.
 
Step 4. Make necessary changes in your own life.
 
Your main desire is to get your marriage back. If you want that to happen, you will have to make some necessary changes in your own life.
 
Even if you do not get your husband or wife back, you will have to go on with life. In either case, you will have to develop a “new you” in the midst of this difficult situation. There are several keys to marital bliss, and you want to reinvent yourself in such a way that you contribute to those keys. (Those keys are related in my book, The LOVING Way to a Successful Marriage: Six keys to Marital Bliss. You can get a free six-session mini-course based on that book right here.)
Six Keys to Marital Bliss

The LOVING Way to a Successful Marriage: Six Keys to Marital Bliss

 
Step 5. Apologize for what you did wrong.
 
You want to formulate this apology carefully.  You do not want it to be a fake apology, so clearly identify what it is, and what it is not, that you are apologizing for.  Then make the apology, but don’t apologize over and over and over again. Remember step one.
 
Step 6. Ask for another chance.
 
At the appropriate time, ask for another chance.  That appropriate time will be after you have given your mate some space and after you have shown how you are improving your own life.
 
Step 7.  After you get back together, keep improving your marriage.
 
Don’t let what you learned during this process be for nothing.  If it appears that it was all just fake, and for the process of dragging your mate back into the old situation, this success will not last long.  Build on the positive changes you have made.  Make your new experience of marriage a priority, and things will be better than ever.

I conduct marriage seminars across the country, and I have discovered that two types of people attend those seminars. The first type includes those whose marriages are in desparate situations. The second type, however, includes those who have great marriages. Why do they attend? It is because they consider their marriages to be one of the highest priorities in their lives. They realize that they have not “arrived yet.”  They are open to constantly learning new things to improve their marriages.

When you get your marriage back, you want to be like that second group and keep on improving your marriage.

One of the ways to do that is to learn how to balance your marriage across six key areas of marital life.  Again, check out The LOVING Way to a Successful Marriage: Six Keys to Marital Bliss.

Your Relationship Rescue Plan – How to Succeed in 3 Easy Steps

Yesterday, we talked about, “What do you really need to get back together?” Today, we will talk about how to formulate a relationship rescue plan.

We can safely assume that everyone would agree that there is no such thing as a perfect relationship. To be fair, many couples do get along very well, but perfection simply is not attainable. On the other hand, some relationships are so far from perfection that they are about to fall apart. If that hits a sore spot, then you may need a relationship rescue.

Even though there are no perfect relationships, you will do well to strive for perfection–to keep trying to improve your relationship. This is important because doing so keeps you focused on the relationship. Couples need to understand that being happy together doesn’t happen without any effort on their part. Good relationships take work. So, if you want to rescue a poor relationship, then you need to be willing to do whatever it takes to make it succeed.

Let’s be blunt. Accomplishing this won’t be easy. It’s hard enough when a relationship is running smoothly, and if yours has problems, it’s going to be much, much harder. But, as they say, all good things are worth fighting for. Get ready. Roll up your sleeves. Let’s get started!

Here are three easy steps to designing and implementing your relationship rescue plan:

1. Step back and look at things.
The first thing you need to do is take a step back and try to look at things as though you are on the outside looking in. How would you describe what’s going on? Where are you at fault? Where could you improve? What things are going well enough to keep you together for now? The goal of questions like these is to help you see things as they really are.

2. Talk to your mate.
Once you have an idea of what’s really going on, you need to talk to your husband or wife. This can be very difficult. The key here is to remain calm, honest, rational and respectful. Do not let things get out of control. You want to avoid arguing at all costs. All you are really doing is presenting the facts as you understand them. You may be surprised to find that your spouse has felt just as you have.

3. Make your relationship rescue plan.
Now that you have talked to each other, it’s time begin making a plan for relationship rescue. Your plan depends on your specific situation. Each person is different, and every couple is different. While there is not one plan that will work for everyone, there are some good resources available that can help you. There are websites, books, guides, counseling options and other resources out there. However, none of them will do you any good unless you actually take action on what you learn.

You need to commit to your plan. It takes time and work, but as your relationship improves, it will seem easier. It will be so much nicer when you start seeing results. Results are a great source of motivation. Once you get a taste of how well your relationship rescue plan works, you will be even more motivated to improve.

Learn more about formulating a relationship rescue plan at the Get Back Together Page on this website.

T.W. Jackson has some great resources that will help with developing your relationship rescue plan.

Happy planning to you!

What Do You Really Need to Get Back Together?

What do you really need to get back together? This could be where you are not physically apart–just where you had a little spat. That is not something that is of too much concern unless you do not resolve things and allow things to fester.

On the other hand, we may actually be talking about where one of you has moved out. What do you really need to get back together?

Do you need to apologize? Yes, but it must be done in the right way.

Are there some techniques that will just pester my spouse and drive him or her farther away? There certainly are. You need to be aware of those and avoid them.

Are there techniques that will cause my spouse to be drawn to me. The good news is, “Yes!” You need to implement as many of these as possible.

Could I ask for a second chance? Of course, but, again, you must be careful when doing this. Get as much information as you can when writing a second-chance letter.

Finally, you need to get a handle on your life, regardless of the outcome. When you do this, you will become more confident and more attractive to your spouse. Even if things don’t work out (although, they likely will workout if you apply techniques properly), you will come out better than you are now.

Check out more information on the Get Back Together Page, but don’t just stop there, go on to get The Magic of Making Up. That could be one of the best moves you make in the near future!