Finishing New Book Today

You Can Help with This Book

You Can Help with This Book

I am submitting files to my publisher, For Worthy Books, today for From Mountains to Molehills: Overcoming and Celebrating Your Differences in Marriage.

A Kindle version will also be coming soon.

Please be on the lookout for both.

This book contains several chapters that were added as result of a survey that was done this summer, so it is quite up-to-date and relevant.

Announcement coming soon.

You did help make the book title when you responded to the earlier survey.

Thanks for your help.


Here Is the Survey That Will Help the New Marriage Book–You Can Be a Part

As I mentioned earlier, I am writing a new book on marriage. This one will be about overcoming differences in marriage. I have much of the content written but I could add up to 50 more pages (as the book would appear in the print version–This will be a kindle version). You really could help make the book more current if you would be so kind as to fill out this short survey of only 9 questions. This is a picture of my good friends, Jon and Jenny Brown. Jon consented to endorse an earlier book, and I had the privilege of helping to perform their wedding ceremony a few years ago (well I guess it was a few–their oldest child just left for college).

Jon and Jenny Brown

Jon and Jenny Brown

I am sure they won’t mind my rebroadcast of this picture. They gave permission to use it to promote my writing and speaking activities.

I chose the picture because it looked like peace and harmony. I hope they haven’t just had a big fight :).

You can see Jon’s comments on another page on this website. Look for the “See What Others Are Saying” section

In this survey, you will again have the opportunity to give input on the title, and your answers will really shape the direction of the remainder of the book.

This is the same survey that appears as a link on Facebook, so if you have already filled it out there, I give you my thanks.

If you have not already done so, please take a few minutes here to help with finishing the book and to help marriages that are struggling, perhaps, to overcome their differences. You will also have the opportunity, if you wish, to tell how you overcame something in your marriage.

Here is the survey link:

Wouldn’t it be great to experience peace and harmony every day in your marriage? Doing so will bring about one of the keys to marital bliss.

Thanks in Advance for those who choose to help.

The last book hit the bestseller list several times on Amazon. Please help us to make this one a good one too.

You can get a copy of the last book, 21 Ways the Principle of Leaving Will Benefit Your Marriage, by clicking here.

Your Story In Print! Help Other Marriages

Imagine your story, not particularly too personal (unless you want it to be), helping young couples navigate their way through some rapids in their marriage.

You Can Help with This Book

You Can Help with This Book

Thank you all who took a look at my last book. I am writing a new one about overcoming differences in marriage. I would value your help. I will ask some questions here and do a survey in a day or two.
You might show up in the next book if you are willing for me to mention who some of the ideas came from.

Here is the first question (or set of questions): What would be a good title for the book? We have had one suggestion: “From Combat to Fireworks” has been suggested. We will also have a subtitle telling more specifically what the book will be about.
What do you think about that title? Do you have another suggestion or suggestions?




Provided by: Darryl E. from Foursquare

Provided by: Darryl E. from Foursquare

Just arrived at the Convention Center in Kansas City for the National Association of Free Will Baptists. Check out more at I think it will be a great week. An added bonus is that two of my grandsons are competing in the National Youth Conference.


I did bring some books and brochures.

Here is a screen shot from Amazon confirming the Best-seller status:

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The print is small but it does mention the bestselling books, and it listed the “21 Ways” Kindle book.

It is still at $3.99 through midnight tonight. Then it will settle down at $4.99 for a while.

Get it here if you want to beat the deadline.

Hit the Best Seller’s List

Hi, Everyone,

This afternoon we hit the best seller’s list (in the free books section) on the Kindle Store in Amazon.

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Best-Selling Kindle Book

Click here to get your own copy for free. The promotion will run till Friday of this week. Share this with your friends. It would be really great if you would give some feedback in a review too.

Another way to access it is to put this in your url search bar for your browser:

Amazon Best Sellers Rank:
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Will you help us get in the top 3?



Good Decision-Making: A Must for Successful Marriages

Many of you who have read my book, The LOVING Way to a Successful Marriage, know that one of the keys to marital bliss is to have a commitment to “overcome.” You have many things to overcome in a marriage. Part of what you have to overcome is difficult communication, and part of that difficulty has to do with the fact that men and women think differently.

I don’t just mean that they have different opinions. The thought processes are actually different.

Bill and Pam Farrell do an excellent job of articulating how those differences affect marriages in their unique treatment of the subject called, Men Are Like Waffles: Women Are Like Spaghetti.

The also have some good ideas for decision-making.

You might want to check out their work:

The 10 Best Decisions A Couple Can Make

“What are the 10 Best Decisions a Couple can Make to Build the love of their dreams? If you could remodel your marriage, what would you want it to look like? In this tool chest of relationship building skills, Pam & Bill will help you discover the untapped potential in your marriage – and provide you with the inspiration and expert advice you need to strengthen, protect, and re-charge your marriage. Whether your marriage needs an extreme makeover or you simply want to add a few finishing touches, you’ll find the right tools for the job in 10 Best Decisions a Couple Can Make. Small group and couple discussion questions as well as Mentoring Moments included. (formerly Every Marriage is a Fixer Upper).” (From their website,

The book is available through Harvest House Publishers.

If you would like to pick up more skills on understanding each other, getting along, and overcome differences in marriage, you could find quite a bit about that in The LOVING Way to a Successful Marriage: Six Keys to Marital Bliss.

Community Education Courses at Morthland College

Click Here for a PDF file of the Morthland College Spring 2012 Community Education Courses Taught by Dr. Randy Carney

(If your computer hangs up after clicking the pdf link above, just erase the words after “” in the address bar and refresh the page.)

This is information about three community education courses that will be taught at Morthland College in March and May. Two of them are about book publishing, which is slightly off-topic for this website. Still, some of you, or someone you know, might be interested. The third one is the One-Day Couples-Enrichment Seminar. You can also find out about it in the post right below this one.

Here is some from the Morthland brochure:

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Though it is not mentioned in this brochure, we have a special treat in that Rhonda will be joining me in presenting the couples-enrichment seminar.

It would be my great privilege to be with you during any or all of these courses.

Please pass the word along.

Dare to Care Interview

Today, I was interviewed by Kent Mattox and Cris Corzine on the weekly radio program of Caring Counseling Ministries in Marion, IL.
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Christian Counseling for Southern Illinois

Caring Counseling Ministries performs a wonderful service by proving Christian Counseling for those in need in the Southern Illinois area.
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I encourage you to check out their website at
During the interview, I gave a history of my background in ministry and Christian Education, and we talked about my current involvement with Morthland College. The bulk of the interview dealt with my book: The LOVING Way to a Successful Marriage: Six Keys to Marital Bliss. We had some fun in our discussion and we covered a smattering of the concepts presented in each of the six parts of the book.
My hosts were very gracious, and I think we all had a good time during our discussion.
If you have Windows Media Player (or something that will play a .WMA file) you will probably be able to listen to the program at the following link:
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(The file is large and takes a while to buffer. After several seconds I clicked on the gray progress bar-backing up slightly and it began to play. Please try it and wait even a minute or two. Well, the next time I tried it, it started right away. The first few comments were between programs, so the interview is actually there after a minute or two. Maybe I can tweak some more later. You may have to turn your speakers up a little; however, using headphones worked well for me.)
Bless you, and, anyway, I had a good time during the interview. (Their program usually airs on Friday afternoon from 2:00 to 2:30 on WGGH AM 1150 in Marion, IL.)

Jack Canfield and The Success Principles

Chicken Soup for the Soul–Who has not heard of that? Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen started a wonderful series of encouraging and positive books, and that series has encouraged millions of people around the world.

In addition to that, Jack has written The Success Principles: Getting from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be! It

The Success Principles

Jack Canfield and The Success Principles

looks to be a powerful book filled with 64 success principles.

This website is about successful marriage, so of course I am interested in success principles, especially as to how they can be applied to marriage.

Here are some intriguing benefits that can be received by applying the principles in Mr. Canfield’s book:

  • How to change the outcome of any event, simply by changing your response to it
  • How to complete past projects, heal past relationships and process old hurts, so you can embrace the future
  • How to say “no” to the good, so you’ll have room in your life to say “yes” to the great
  • Why you should drop out of the “Ain’t It Awful” Club and instead surround yourself with success, positive and nurturing people.

I noticed how those four principles could benefit any marriage.

“How to change the outcome of any event, simply by changing your response to it” is something I would like to look into from his perspective. In our marriage seminars, we talk about how to break a “crazy cycle”, in part using some ideas from Emerson Eggerichs.

“How to complete past projects, heal past relationships and process old hurts, so you can embrace the future” is another important principle. in the book, The LOVING Way to a Successful Marriage: Six Keys to Marital Bliss, I talk

The LOVING Way to a Successful Marriage

The LOVING Way to a Successful Marriage

about the importance of the principle of “leaving” in which I talk about the importance of leaving behind past relationships and getting rid of “baggage” we bring with us into the marriage relationship.

“How to say ‘no’ to the good, so you’ll have room in your life to say ‘yes’ to the great” is a great principle. I have often said that the “good” is often the worst enemy of the “best.” It is easy to see that it is a good choice to choose the good over the bad; however, it is often less easy to see that we miss out on the best when simply settle for the good. We want to have marriages that thrive instead of those that just survive.

Speaking of choosing the best, one of the most popular and entertaining sessions of our marriage seminars is “Don’t Just Be in the Marriage Game. Go for the Championship!”

“Why you should drop out of the ‘Ain’t It Awful’ Club and instead surround yourself with success, positive and nurturing people” certainly sounds like good advice. That could help many marriages too.

Of course, I especially look for principles that are not contrary to the principles of the Bible. I do not think we create reality with our words, but if we set goals and follow through with action, we can certainly see great measures of success.

If you are interested in success in general, you might want to check out Mr. Canfield’s book. If you are looking for principles for a successful marriage in particular, you may find it very helpful to browse around on this site for a while.

Catching up with a Friend

It is always good to catch up with old friends, isn’t it.

I just talked with Bruce Droit, a friend all the way back to childhood.

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How does this relate to this website? I guess the best answer is that you want your mate to be your best friend. Friends in general remind you of that.

Bruce and his wife Stacy run Arnett’s Country Store south of West Frankfort, IL. If you would like to check out their website you could go to They have many wonderful craft and decorative items that you might like to look at.

How does that relate to marriage? You want your marriage to be a thing of beauty, don’t you?

Check out The LOVING Way to a Successful Marriage if you would like to make your marriage more beautiful than it already is, and while you are at it, you might want to mosey over to Bruce and Stacee’s website too.