Many things affect a marriage. For instance, we spend a lot of time trying to learn how to understand our spouses. In
so doing, we find that many psychological issues affect our communication attempts in marriage. Relationship psychology basics can help us comprehend many things. Relationships can take quite different turns. Actually, relationships are peculiar things. One day a relationship will be tremendous, but the next day or just a short time later, it may be horrendously hard for the couple to get along. So, a major thing we want to do in marriage is to learn how to communicate with each other, and many psychological factors affect that. In this article, we will examine how relationship psychology basics affect you and your marriage.
If you don’t understand relationship psychology basics, you may soon find yourself in need of a relationship rescue plan.
What is worse than that, you may find it very difficult to identify the things that trigger good times or bad times. Because of this, you find it almost impossible to predict what will happen in your relationship. These complex realities are the only explanations for how a couple can be madly in love one day, and then they are ready to file for divorce the next?
You see? It all seems to depend upon psychology.
Does that view mean that a psychologist can restore any relationship?
Hardly, but some interesting things to consider do exist. One of my friends who is not a psychologists by trade has had excellent success at helping many people get back together. Even though hid did not have formal psychological training, he does have an excellent understanding of relationship psycology basics. Maybe having some insights into how men and women think will help you maintain your present relationship, and maybe that will also help you to make your current relationship much, much stronger.
The National Institute of Mental Health commissioned a study that found that the majority of young couples (18 to 21 years of age) avoided being overly intimate–in the deepest sense of the word–with one another. The study found that these young people tried to remain as independent as they possibly could in the early years of their relationships.
Even though this was true, the results also showed strong evidence that they worried about being abandoned or rejected. While that was generally true, those with higher self-esteem indicated that they didn’t worry as much as the others.
In addition to those findings about younger people, older couples did not show as much of a tendency for this type of behavior. Probably this is because they have had more life experiences, and, really, they do not worry as much as younger people do about what others think of them.
They just don’t worry as much about breaking up.
Interestingly, this attitude actually makes it less likely that they will break up.
Of course, breakups can happen at any age, not just to young people.
Researchers also record that there are differences between men and women when it comes to conversing. Women sometimes steer the conversation in certain directions, whereas men tend to react to things as they come.
You can easily see how that would cause conflict.
These differences in communication often mean that what you meant to say might not be what the other person perceives you as meaning. Understanding some of these differences can help you when you try to converse with your spouse.
These are a few of the psychological explanations for how relationships develop, but there are many more. Studying the effects of differences between men an women can be fascinating, but just making such a study is not enough to keep the marriage going well. What a good marriage really needs is work and commitment.
If you think that things could be better in your relationship, keep these relationship psychology basics in mind. This information give you a good start to restoring or enriching your relationship. Some professional counselors can help you understand the psychology of relationships, but you can do much research on your own too.
Get all the information you can about relationship psychology basics, and then use that information to your best advantage.
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