What do you really need to get back together? This could be where you are not physically apart–just where you had a little spat. That is not something that is of too much concern unless you do not resolve things and allow things to fester.
On the other hand, we may actually be talking about where one of you has moved out. What do you really need to get back together?
Do you need to apologize? Yes, but it must be done in the right way.
Are there some techniques that will just pester my spouse and drive him or her farther away? There certainly are. You need to be aware of those and avoid them.
Are there techniques that will cause my spouse to be drawn to me. The good news is, “Yes!” You need to implement as many of these as possible.
Could I ask for a second chance? Of course, but, again, you must be careful when doing this. Get as much information as you can when writing a second-chance letter.
Finally, you need to get a handle on your life, regardless of the outcome. When you do this, you will become more confident and more attractive to your spouse. Even if things don’t work out (although, they likely will workout if you apply techniques properly), you will come out better than you are now.