We can safely assume that everyone would agree that there is no such thing as a perfect relationship. To be fair, many couples do get along very well, but perfection simply is not attainable. On the other hand, some relationships are so far from perfection that they are about to fall apart. If that hits a sore spot, then you may need a relationship rescue.
Even though there are no perfect relationships, you will do well to strive for perfection–to keep trying to improve your relationship. This is important because doing so keeps you focused on the relationship. Couples need to understand that being happy together doesn’t happen without any effort on their part. Good relationships take work. So, if you want to rescue a poor relationship, then you need to be willing to do whatever it takes to make it succeed.
Let’s be blunt. Accomplishing this won’t be easy. It’s hard enough when a relationship is running smoothly, and if yours has problems, it’s going to be much, much harder. But, as they say, all good things are worth fighting for. Get ready. Roll up your sleeves. Let’s get started!
Here are three easy steps to designing and implementing your relationship rescue plan:
1. Step back and look at things.
The first thing you need to do is take a step back and try to look at things as though you are on the outside looking in. How would you describe what’s going on? Where are you at fault? Where could you improve? What things are going well enough to keep you together for now? The goal of questions like these is to help you see things as they really are.
2. Talk to your mate.
Once you have an idea of what’s really going on, you need to talk to your husband or wife. This can be very difficult. The key here is to remain calm, honest, rational and respectful. Do not let things get out of control. You want to avoid arguing at all costs. All you are really doing is presenting the facts as you understand them. You may be surprised to find that your spouse has felt just as you have.
3. Make your relationship rescue plan.
Now that you have talked to each other, it’s time begin making a plan for relationship rescue. Your plan depends on your specific situation. Each person is different, and every couple is different. While there is not one plan that will work for everyone, there are some good resources available that can help you. There are websites, books, guides, counseling options and other resources out there. However, none of them will do you any good unless you actually take action on what you learn.
You need to commit to your plan. It takes time and work, but as your relationship improves, it will seem easier. It will be so much nicer when you start seeing results. Results are a great source of motivation. Once you get a taste of how well your relationship rescue plan works, you will be even more motivated to improve.
Learn more about formulating a relationship rescue plan at the Get Back Together Page on this website.
T.W. Jackson has some great resources that will help with developing your relationship rescue plan.
Happy planning to you!