Hit the Best Seller’s List

Hi, Everyone,

This afternoon we hit the best seller’s list (in the free books section) on the Kindle Store in Amazon.

Best Seller

Best-Selling Kindle Book

Click here to get your own copy for free. The promotion will run till Friday of this week. Share this with your friends. It would be really great if you would give some feedback in a review too.

Another way to access it is to put this in your url search bar for your browser: http://amzn.to/28XEVAD.

Amazon Best Sellers Rank:
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Will you help us get in the top 3?



The Little Egypt Writers’ Society

The Little Egypt Writers’ Society is a great group that meets monthly in Marion, IL. I had the great privilege of speaking to their group in January. I thought we had a great time together. I have not been able to follow up with them as I would have liked, but now that I have retired from most of my duties at Morthland College, I do plan to rekindle the relationships.

The Lord’s Prayer

There are two videos recently placed on YouTube. They are of live events that do not relate to marriage, but do relate to speaking in church.

This was a message preached at God’s Tree of Life Church in Pittsburg, IL.

Here is part 1.

This was part 2.

This is not typical of my prepared speeches for Public Speaking venues. But it is an example of how to insert a video into the blog posts, and I do hope the message is a blessing to you.

We may try more in the future.

Happy New Year!

Rusty, Brenda,    Brian, Rachelle,    Chip, Ralanna,   Rita Beth, Tommy,

Kelton, Grace       Avery, Hank              Makenna,          Tali, Jameson

…………   ………….Kassidy, Addie

Carney                   Barker                     Currin                Dryden


Happy New Year from Rhonda and Randy and the extended Carney family!

Still More Articles by Dr. Randy Carney

As I mentioned in the previous post about these articles, I have written over a hundred that specifically address issues that spouses face in all areas. Here are 50 more articles on love and marriage that I hope will encourage and inspire you in your marriage.

My Wife Doesn’t Initiate Sex – Is My Marriage Over Or Can I Be Reassured?


Six Things Your Husband Wishes You Knew About Him – How to Thrill Him In 6 Easy Steps


Advice For Troubled Marriage – The Way to Get Your Spouse Back and Save Your Marriage


Think That You See Signs Your Husband Doesn’t Love You Anymore? 3 Things You Want to Watch Out For


Broken Marriage on Its Way to Divorce? How to Save Marriage From Five Dangerous Trends!


How to Get Your Husband to Love You Again in 5 Easy Steps


Ignore Your Spouse – The Surprising Way to Get Back Together


What to Do If Your Spouse Never Wants to Be Intimate


Tell-Tale Signs Your Wife Doesn’t Love You Anymore – 4 Possible Evidences


Want Marriage Self-Help? 3 Reasons You Should Get Good Resources For Marriage Restoration


3 Ways to Surprise Your Spouse on Your Anniversary


5 Romantic Ways to Celebrate Your Anniversary


Valuing Your Spouse – Three Reminders of How to Value Your Mate


Want to Know Ways to Value Your Spouse? Three Super Techniques


Valuing Your Husband’s Thoughts – A Tremendous Opportunity


Want to Know How to Value Your Spouse? 3 Secrets That Will Benefit Both of You


Valuing Your Love – How to Make Each Other Feel Special in 7 Simple Ways


Are There Reasons Why I Should Leave My Spouse Even When I Don’t Want To?


Valuing Your Spouse – Three Tremendous Ways to Do So


Husband’s Past Relationships Cause Problems in Marriage? 3 Items to Avoid When Dealing With This


For What Reasons Should You Leave a Relationship?


How to Build Spiritual Intimacy With a Partner – 5 Ways to Reach This Key to Marital Bliss


When Should You Leave Your Husband Or Wife? Is it Ever Right to Do So?


What to Do When Your Spouse Feels Threatened – Three Simple Ways to Cure the Problem


Real Reasons You Should Leave Your Husband


Growing Spiritually With Your Spouse Will Put You on the Way to Achieving Marital Bliss


Growing Closer to God As a Couple in Spiritual and Physical Intimacy – Exciting Key to Marital Bliss


Want to Know Three Keys to Growing in Intimacy? Discover This Amazing Secret to Marital Bliss


Want Growing Toward Intimacy to Be a Part of Your Daily Life? How to Get This Key to Marital Bliss


Marriage Problems – Husband Doesn\’t Like Sex


Help For Problems in Marriage – 5 Major Ways to Get Your Spouse Back


Husband Will Not Have Sex? How to Understand and Help


Do You Say, “My Husband Hates Having Sex”? 3 Reason Why it May Be True


Your Husband Doesn’t Want Sex Anymore? 5 Shocking Reasons and Solutions


Marriage Problems? Husband Doesn’t Want to Have Sex


Physical Intimacy and Spiritual Intimacy – Can the Two Really Go Together?


Valuing Your Spouse – Three Super Ways to Do It


Now That You Are Married, Should You Leave? Three Shocking Reasons Why You Should


Want a Highly Successful Marriage? The Single, Most Important Commitment That Makes That Happen


Secret Problems in Your Marriage? 6 Hidden Areas to Investigate


Want to Know Keys Successful Marriages Have? Three Spectacular Tips


Looking For a Marriage Help Book? Get the “Know How” – Save Your Marriage


Need Marriage Help After 10 Years of Marriage? Are Changes Serious Or Normal?


Looking For Marriage Help? Christian Resources’ Surprising Cutting Edge


Want to Solve Problems in Marriage? 3 Highly Effective Keys For Winning the Battle


Want Great Tips to Help Save a Marriage and Prevent Your Marriage From Breaking Up? Five Sure Steps


Want to Know How to Repair Your Broken Marriage? What You Need to Know in One Package


Fixing a Marriage – Six Astounding Ways to Do it Quickly


So Your Wife is Angry All the Time? Six Highly Effective Ways to Turn Things Around


Your Husband Doesn’t Want to Have Sex? 5 Amazing Answers and Solutions


Thank you for taking the time to read over some of my articles, and I pray that they will be a great help and blessing to you.

Summer Discounts

As I said in a post below, I am now serving as the Dean of Academic Affairs for Morthland College. That limited my speaking availability some.

However, I am happy to announce that I will be more available during June and July. I do have three classes I am teaching this summer, but they are all in an online format. The classes are New Testament Survey, Old Testament Survey, and Bible Doctrines. They run for eight weeks, beginning June 3. Those of you who interested in this option, please go to https://www.morthland.org. Those wishing to register should contact Mrs. Cathie Mieldezis.

What this means for you is that it is much easier for me to arrange my schedule to accept speaking engagements for the summer.

So, those who wish to have a marriage seminar in their church or who would like to have a keynote speaker for an event, may go to the Request Randy tab for more information.

So, what about the discounts?

You will notice on the “speaking fees” page all inclusive quotes for speaking fees. Those quotes include us paying expenses for the event.

Those rates for 2013 are:

United States & Canada………….$4,500 USD *
International……………………….$9,500 USD *

* This speaking fee is inclusive of airfare, hotel, ground transportation, food and all other miscellaneous expenses. This fee also includes pre-speech interviews so Randy can customize his presentation to meet your goals and objectives of your meeting. Additional savings are available if you select his “Pre-Pay Option.” Ask for more details on this option. Even more savings can be arranged if you have an event that is a fundraiser for a ministry.

Here are three options for discounts for which you may qualify.

Option # 1

See how many of the following things you can help us with or agree to provide. Those discounts then add up to bring the fee within your budget.

1. One-half Pay in advance to secure date $     250.00
2. Recommendation on Letterhead $     250.00
3. Two Referrals $     250.00
4. Book Airline, One or Two nights lodging, and one to three days of meals
(Depends on location-may prepay for mileage if in driving distance)
$     750.00
5. Arrange for Second Event on Same Contract $     250.00
6. Franklin County (IL) and Adjacent Counties $     250.00
7. Prepurchase of 50 Books $     750.00
8. 100 pre-registered attendees $     500.00
9. Illinois and Adjacent States $     250.00
10. Allow Back of Room Continuing Education Opportunities $     250.00
11. Non Profit $     250.00

(12. Further discounts may be available in exchange for additional services that you may be able to provide.)

Once you have arrived at an estimate based upon the above, please call 618-218-4271 (voice mail) or email at rcarneysurvey@yahoo.com to finalize the arrangements. When you email, please put “speaking” in the subject line to expedite communication. You can also send me a message through my profile at the Speakermatch speakers bureau. (You will notice that this page assumes you will be able to receive some of the discounts mentioned here.)

Option # 2

Host a fundraiser for a local cause of your own.

We will split the proceeds from the event above the expenses, and a further 10% of proceeds from investments in continuing education materials will also go to your cause. (In some cases, all or part of the proceeds that go to our portion will be donated to the One Million for Missions project that my wife are working on.)

Option # 3

Send payment in full when you secure the date, and I will work within your budget, whatever it is, as long as required minimums (travel expenses and modest per diems) are met. Again, please contact us to see what we can work out.

While this website focuses primarily on our marriage ministry, the same arrangements can be made for colleges and schools for my topics dealing with leadership and maximizing life potential.

Have a great summer. It would be my privilege to serve you. (In some cases, weekends, my wife can join me for your event.)



“Kinda’ Busy,” But Still Available

Dear Friends,

I have been serving as the Department Chair for Biblical Studies at Morthland College. Recently, I was also appointed as the Academic Dean.

I will be teaching two courses this fall for the college as well as being engaged in administrative duties.

What does that mean for marriage seminars? I will be able to accept speaking engagements in the evenings in the local southern Illinois area. I will also continue to be available especially on Friday evenings, Saturdays, and in some cases on Sundays for speaking engagements. For a marriage seminar, I will be able to conduct those on the weekends in this schedule too. A marriage seminar that includes my wife can be arranged on the weekends too, but perhaps, on an even more limited basis.

Please don’t hesitate to contact us about availability. You will notice my regular speaking fee on another page on this website. Please notice that I have a desire to be able to work within your budget. I can do so with a discounted rate in return for some additional agreements on your part.

I just wanted to let you know about continued availability for speaking engagements. I will update the calendar page in the near future.


Dr. Randy Carney
Dean of Academic Affairs
Department Chair, Biblical Studies
Morthland College

Tribute to Willard F. Harley, Jr.

Readers of my book, The Loving Way to a Successful Marriage: Six Keys to Marital Bliss,

The LOVING Way to A Successful Marriage: Six Keys to Marital Bliss

The LOVING Way to a Successful Marriage Gives Six Sensational Keys to Help Anyone Progress More and More to a State of Marital Bliss!

know that I like the research that Dr. Harley has done in the area of “needs meeting.”

If you would like to know about his research in this area, please check out his book at the Handfuls on Purpose Christian Bookstore Website.

His Needs: Her Needs

Slower-Paced Relationships–Good or Bad?

Is it really good to have a slower-paced relationship? Often, it can be–provided things don’t drag on to the point of excess.
My friend, Ken Leatherman, sent me the basis for this article, and gave permission to edit it as I saw fit:
Slow-Paced Relationships–All People Have Their Own Pace
People all have their own unique pace. Some people always seem to be set on high all the time, others like the slow and steady route a little better. Having different rhythms is natural, but when it comes to relationships this condition can cause misunderstandings. If you find yourself involved with someone who likes Slow-paced relationships don’t assume it is because someone like that isn’t interested.
That is the biggest problem people run into, someone who is a little fast-paced may feel that his (or her)  partner isn’t interested if the partners wants a slow-paced relationship. Once you get past your own insecurities, you may want to consider taking things a little slower. That isn’t a bad thing… as long as you both talk and are both on the same page.
One of the big problems that many couples have is that they move too fast anyway. When you are going at top speed it is easy to miss potential problems in the relationship, and it is easy to mistake temptation to lust (or just the desire for companionship) for love.
Slowing things down a little bit basically forces both of you to see the other person as he and people like him or her really are and not just how you want them to be. Again, another problem in relationships is that people often don’t see the things that are right in front of their face. The faster you are going, the harder it is to catch your breath and see things in your relationship clearly.
All in all, there is really no downside to going at a slower pace in your relationship but you both need to remember that the two of you need to determine just what each of you means by “taking things slowly”.
If one of you has one idea of what “slow” relates to and the other person has another idea it may lead to misunderstandings and hurt feelings.
Of course, this can happen in all aspects of your relationship, not just the speed at which you want it to move, that a perfectly innocent misunderstanding can cause a lot of trouble. The two of you really need to find a healthy way of communicating right from the very beginning  of your relationship. If you can do that every aspect of your relationship will be easier if you can utilize skills like these to overcome your different levels of pacing.
If your partner wants to take things slow, don’t get upset or read too much into it. Peple like you should talk to your partners. Talk to them about what their expectations are and what they mean by slow. Make sure you both are on  the same page and always keep the communication lines open.
Going at a slower pace will make it easier for you both to get to know each other. Getting to know each other, along with learning good communication skills, can allow you both to have a better relationship. Slow pace relationships are good, so don’t get worried if your partner wants to take things slow.

Three Basic Questions

In the pages of The LOVING Way to a Successful MARRIAGE, I often make mention of the fact that one of our major commitments in a marriage is simply to commitment to overcome. We have many things to overcome. We have different backgrounds. We may have different temperaments. We have basic differences even in the process of how men and women think.

Six Keys to Marital Bliss

The LOVING Way to a Successful Marriage: Six Keys to Marital Bliss

One of the most significant differences, however, comes about in relation to how we respond to the “love and respect” cycle (sometimes called the “crazy cycle” 🙂 ). This tension is illustrated extremely well by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs’ book, Love and Respect. I just recently read an article of his that boils our tensions in marriage down the three central questions and our responses.Love and Respect

You might want to check out the article at http://loveandrespect.com/blog/three-central-questions/.

For additional help in dealing with such a crazy cycle as listed above, look at the closing three chapters of The LOVING Way to a Successful Marriage: Six Keys to Marital Bliss.

May the Lord help each of us as we attempt to live out the principle of “overcoming” in our marriages. It’s really good when that process actually turns out to be fun!